Over the past few weeks, I have received a number of e-mails regarding some of the previous postings. Perhaps I’ll make a habit of offering comments to them in general, rather than individually, as many of the comments touch on the same themes.
First, and probably the most obvious, is the response to the use of the word “consort”. It was pointed out that “consort” has a number of different definitions: the spouse of a monarch (noun) and to associate with (verb) being the two that are most applicable. When I look at words, I often think how the various definitions are similar in concept. Here, with “consort”, we find one concept, namely that of association, with many different points on the spectrum, those being how closely we associate. To further shed light on this subject, let me quote from one of the e-mails regarding this (and thank you Dave for putting it so well).
First, and probably the most obvious, is the response to the use of the word “consort”. It was pointed out that “consort” has a number of different definitions: the spouse of a monarch (noun) and to associate with (verb) being the two that are most applicable. When I look at words, I often think how the various definitions are similar in concept. Here, with “consort”, we find one concept, namely that of association, with many different points on the spectrum, those being how closely we associate. To further shed light on this subject, let me quote from one of the e-mails regarding this (and thank you Dave for putting it so well).
When the Báb was manifested in Persia, I would suggest that humanity was at the lowest end of this spectrum. Thousands of Bahá’ís were slaughtered simply for being Babis or "Do not consort with any other than your own religion." As we advance towards the present era, we have made very little progress in this area. Nazi Germany, Rwanda and 9/11 are examples of our failure.
The establishment of the "Greater Peace" will be heralded by (the) majority of humanity treating others with a degree of respect indicated by the "Spouse of a Monarch" definition of consort. This day also defines the higher end of the spectrum "Consort with the followers..." as Bahá’u’lláh revealed.
That being said, you could not be more correct in the assertion that posi-genesis is the ONLY way to correct the injustices that we witness everyday. TOLERANCE of all will bring the peace that we as Bahá’ís wish would come.
In short, this concept of consorting begins with simply being with the other person. We do not generally start by having a very close and intimate relationship with others, but rather we aspire towards it.
Perhaps a good step would be to look at this spectrum of association that is suggested. We can see it in relation to “personal space”, or how close someone can be to us before we begin to feel uncomfortable. For some it may be a meter or two, others a foot away. My wife can be even closer without my feeling any sense of discomfort, but I won’t go there. Regardless of the actual distance, I would suggest that degree of closeness, both emotionally and in physical comfort for personal space, would be in the following order:
Stranger ----- Acquaintance ----- Friend ----- Partner ----- Spouse
Obviously, there are many levels within this, and I’m sure it can be further refined, but this is just a start. As we get to know others better, they move further along this spectrum. Even though I do believe in monogamy, it seems to me that there are cases where someone else can be as close as a spouse, without any of the sexual connotations. This would be true unity with another.
In comment to the use of the word “tolerance”, I would suggest that this be replaced with “respect and honour”. I can only imagine how horrible life would be if my wife merely tolerated me. But tolerance is, in many cases, the first step. Unfortunately it seems to have the implication of being done grudgingly, although I am not certain of this.
The issue of tolerance versus respect and honour does not actually fit in the above path, but applies at all levels. In fact, it seems to be an internal issue, rather than that of external or relational between others. I have, unfortunately, met people who do, in fact, only tolerate their spouse, and life does not seem to be very happy for either of them. On the plus side, I’ve also had the joy of meeting people who truly honour and respect complete strangers, really trying to understand their perspective, no matter how different. It is to this level that we must strive, starting wherever we are and trying to move to a closer and more intimate relationship.
So where does all this lead us?
It is hoped that we do not confuse the lofty goal for the next step on the path.
“Think globally. Act locally.” “If you aim for the stars, you will never shoot yourself in the foot.” “A journey of a thousand miles begins with but a single step.”
These are all the same principal. Remember your goal, but take the next step on your path towards it.
Posi-genesis merely helps us keep the goal in mind. It is up to each and every one of us to figure out how to apply it.
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